Try not to stress too much about it while you’re away! If nothing can be done, nothing can be done. Solarpunks need to be resilient to things like this anyway. Community over convenience.

Put your cart back when you’re done shopping

OP didn’t make a blanket statement that “anyone who does X is a piece of shit.”

He said an unwritten rule, like your own statement:

Don’t be stupid

Which is significantly closer to ableism than the shopping carts, with the implication that anyone who is stupid is a piece of shit.

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with saying “don’t be stupid,” for the record, but in case you weren’t aware, people with brain damage are included under “anyone.”

You’ve picked a bizarrely specific hill to die on.

You’re absolutely correct, but lol this is really weird given your other comments in this post.

Why didn’t you clarify about edge cases, like disabilities?

I highly doubt you have heard a significant number of people who would genuinely say “disabled people who don’t put their carts back are shit people.”

The number of people who would unironically say that is such a small edge case that it’s not necessary to talk about them when you say things like “everyone knows that disabilities result in different needs and moral responsibilities,” just like it’s not necessary to mention disability when you generalize and say “people who don’t put their carts back are shit people.”

Edge cases don’t have to be accounted for in every conversation, not everything is a court of law.

This isn’t really any more deep than “only a sith deals in absolutes”

If it’s financially possible, maybe consider healthcare tourism, as it doesn’t sound like you’re willing to pursue traditional options at this time. It’s highly unlikely you would be able to receive any longterm care outside of the country, but they wouldn’t be integrated with any domestic information systems.

At the very least you could get a diagnosis, and bring that answer back to the states with you to fast track the process. There is a hidden side of the US healthcare system that is surprisingly, almost depressingly effective - oncology. If you are diagnosed with cancer, you will almost certainly witness a level of treatment and expedience that you would not believe possible. Some of the best, most hard-working professionals in the world work in the field, and the nature of their work requires efficiency at all costs.

Whether you pursue the diagnosis inside or out of the country, cancer screening is remarkably fast. If you tell a healthcare professional about your lump, you will receive diagnostic imaging and possibly a biopsy at the highest priority. Depending on the location of your lump, most of these tests can be done outpatient.

Your past hospitalization might be mentioned, but an oncologist won’t really be interested in your psychiatric history beyond the questions “are you currently taking any medications?” and “have you had any surgeries?” There are some questions that relate to anesthesia that may surprise you, but they are asked with a purpose, not as a trap.

My best advice is to provide the minimum data requested of you - you do not need to volunteer information, you do not need to answer questions that you were not asked. But you should answer the questions they do ask you to the best of your ability, as simply as you can.

Not at all, I meant it when I said I appreciated your comment! I was just adding my own thoughts to the conversation.

It’s really hard for most people - man or woman - to make any headway in this arena precisely becase of the points you made. These poor men are very effectively primed to only respond well to traditionally masculine role models and talking points, and yet it is that very same traditional masculinity that is holding them back.

I just wanted to clarify in the context of the OP why they might feel like “the left isn’t doing enough,” and why that is actually just a part of the alt-right pipeline working as designed.

But I’m afraid I don’t have a mental health issue and the thoughts of suicide come from a place of logic.

I am sorry to say that there is no logic behind suicide.

Logically speaking - that is, without emotions - death is not inherently better than life. There is no logical value added by death. You don’t need to choose to live, it just happens on its own. Trust me, it’s surprisingly hard to just wither away. The body doesn’t want to stop.

You would need to choose to die. If it is not inherently better to die than to live, then it is illogical to choose to do something that you do not have any reason to do.

It is only emotion that changes the equation. Emotionally speaking, it sounds like you currently feel that death would be better than life.

But it does not sound like you wanted to die before this year. At least, not nearly like this. If you did not feel this way before, than there is no logical reason to think you will always feel this way later.

It is therefore only temporary, it is only emotional, and it is exclusively a mental health issue that can be resolved with time and effort.

I feel like it’s weird to say “the left isn’t doing enough for men” when the left is full of men who are struggling with the same thing. They grew up in the same society, filled with the same outdated “suck it up” mentality.

So I appreciate you calling out the issue of younger men not being in a place to listen to women, and the issue of men in general not being in a place to emotionally support their fellow men. It’s not a left vs right thing, it’s that most men are simply ill-equipped to handle emotional labor due to these outdated cultural norms, and yet those same men are naturally the primary providers of support for other similarly ill-equipped men.

Just because the alt right is pretending to care about the needs of men doesn’t mean the left is worse at this. The alt right isn’t standing up for men, they’re using vulnerable men as a means to an end, and replacing “suck it up” with “blame women and leftists”. They’re not telling you how to truly process your emotions with patience and care, they’re just shifting the blame.

There’s plenty of men on the left that serve as excellent role models, they just don’t spend their time constantly talking about their gender, because a large part of evolving past these outdated cultural norms about gender is actually moving past these cultural norms about gender.

This means viewing people and their problems as human first before viewing them as <insert gender>. The majority of people who constantly fill the airwaves about “what it’s like to be a man” are actually just men who are still desperately clinging to those same self-destructive norms. They perpetuate this divide between genders, and leave their fellow men feeling alone and misunderstood and vulnerable to manipulation.

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