Thanks for asking this question. I have enjoyed reading the answers people gave you.

If you think “not being an incel” is nuanced or subtle, you belong in my team.

Better?

I get the feeling old mate here does not find himself in actual social situations with women very often.

I think you will find that “why won’t he just ask me out” is not said about total strangers on the bus etc.

This is Ask Lemmy not Ask Incels.