bluGill

any color you want. Your local paint store can can mix any of tens of thousand different colors while you wait. Paint is cheap - spend the extra cost for their best paint and it is still cheap.

make sure you don’t move where a hoa puts limits on you - and tell your realtor not to waste your time on those places.

You can sometimes be friends - but that cannot be forced and you shouldn’t try. Sometimes the strict morman will be on the same team as a muslem, an altoholic and a homosexual - you can ask all to work together in the office but they have significant personal differences and will not have anything common to do outside of work. If such things are not allowed them you don’t have a diverse team. I have personally worked with someone live everyone of the above and it works because when we realize those differences we don’t talk about those subjects.

I don’t mean you should tell me your criteria. if your idea of success is chess world champion - many have worked 12 hour days for years at it and failed - thus much luck is needed. likewise you may be great at business without ever making CEO. However more modest goals are reached by many - chess national master is in reach of many more. Engineers don’t make near what the CEO does but many more get there.

i can never figure out relationships but those who study it tell me there are predictive measures of what they call success. (The experts don’t always agree)

there are common factors of succesful people. Working hard in some areas tends to result in more success than others.

i guess I didn’t explain well. If your success means a private jet with pilots on call 24x7 that you can afford to fly where and where you want: you need a lot more money than I can help you with.

your success says something vague about resources to explore your interests. How much resources? If you want to make prinitive pottery that is cheap and a great hobby to be interested in. many other interest are more expensive. There is a reason boat owners call them ‘a hole in the water you pour money in’ - boats are also a fine hobby but if your success includes a boat you need more resources.

i agree that health is partially luck and so there is always a luck element. there is much you can do to earn money - keeping a great job is partially luck. There is a lot you can do to keep a relationship but there is some luck on if the other person doesn’t leave you. There is a lot you can do for health but some luck as well.

You need to define succes first. Depending on your definition I will either agree or disagree.

definitions are personal. If you are looking for advice find a definiton that is less about luck.

Regaurdless, safe drivers always park so they drive out. you have much better visibility driving out than backing out which means you are less likely to run over something you didn’t see. By backing in you had to drive past and thus had time to verify nothing was there.