That’s a very negative and unproductive subreddit, one of the reasons I left Reddit. I also felt that way at one point.

Your statement is verifiably false. Women’s hormones shift during and after pregnancy, and reduction (or sometimes increase) in libido is natural. Breastfeeding is well known for reducing, it also acts like birth control. OTC Birth control also commonly reduces libido. Physically sex is difficult during pregnancy.

My pregnant wife and I have dealt with this by learning other ways to show affection, a lot of communication, and setting clear boundaries. It’s a challenge we were ready to tackle, so no regrets or incel/deadbedroom feelings here, just wholesome family love. But yes the shift is difficult at times. I had a very high libido before and it dropped off a cliff for the first time in my life. Actually it’s been a relief.

Sounds like a medical issue for her tbh. That sucks.

Glad you have found happiness too, Internet stranger!

Our kid is not quite here but the parenting has already begun. My wife’s sleep is very disrupted due to the incessant kicking, and in turn mine. Sex has been physically impossible for many months and her hormones make it mentally impossible. She’s too tired to do many chores so my load has doubled.

But we are happy, I’m crying tears of joy many times a day, never felt it before. If anything I feel more confident in our relationship, we find ways to be sweet to each other. This is what we wanted and no surprises here. We did the work, therapy, and talked about it and planned constantly.

We were once like that though, communication is a skill that we learned the hard way. If you’re feeling unsure, please don’t have children (yet!). The parenting preparation can take years, don’t rush it.