Like usually every minute I’d quickly look around to make sure there aren’t weirdos following me.
For context: I’m a young-adult male, but I don’t exactly have training in martial arts or anything, so I’m every time I see anyone that looks “tough” I don’t feel safe.
When I was a kid, my parents told me the usual “stranger danger” talk. Also in movies and tv, there are usualy a lot of plot involving peoppe getting followed, and the victim never looks back. In crime stories, and in the news, people usually become a victim if a bad person follows them home.
So when I went to school as a kid/teen, I’d always be scanning my surroundings like very often, especially when nearing home, I’d be like looking around every 20 seconds to see if there’s weirdos following.
Even as a young adult, I kinda still have this instinct. I mean, we hear about crime everywhere. I don’t exactly live in a “slum”, but I live in a big city, and more people generally means more crime, and statistically, crime is sort of an issue where I live, I mean, it’a a city, you know how it is. This is in the US btw.
I don’t carry a gun, don’t wanna have intrusive thoughts about killing myself so I don’t want that, so I carry pepper spray just in case.
I mean, I’m probably not gonna change my behavior, I think its good to be cautious, this question is just me trying to see if there’s anyone else out there think thinks like me.
Benign? The man cannot be outside without being in constant fear!
Well, maybe for men who are strong, they would feel safe all the time. But I’m not exactly a muscular guy, I’m just average.
Kinda in the same category as most women. Maybe statistically less likely to get SA’ed, but still, muggings, random assults, hate crimes?
My mom got robbed for a few hundred dollars just a fee blocks from my house.
Some kid was throw things at my grandma.
There’ve been hate crimes against Asian Americans since 2020. It never really went away.
Before 2020, it was “stranger danger” and as a kid, it was easy for adults to target you. But now? Its actual hate crimes.
So like, as an Asian American, this is like you telling a Black person in the South to “stop being in constant fear”.
Even in supposedly “liberal” cities, you got people in NYC being attacked. Even native americans got blamed for covid. Like native american can you imagine the insanity?
I think your comment was probably made in good faith, but you’re lacking context for what the US is like. Perhaps your area is very safe, in that case, I’m glad you have that safety, but things are kinds chaotic here. I mean, most of the world, other than small close-knit communities, the world is chaotic.
I remember people yelling racial slurs at me in school, and once even by kids younger than me.
Being a man doesn’t make you safer, not unless you’re a very muscular-looking man (which I’m not).